Frequently Asked Questions~
Are you a lesbian?
I run a blog called “LESBIANSandcats”. Yes, this means that I am a cat. I like girls, and I like FTMs… I’m a very queer lesbian.
When did you find out you were gay?
I found out when I was 12 and I saw 2 girls making out by my bus-stop. Before then, I wasn’t too interested in guys, obviously curious though because I was a 12 year old girl. But, when I saw them kissing, I knew that’s what I was. And ever since then, I’ve been a raging homosexual! =)
How do lesbians have sex?
As annoying as this question is, some people REALLY don’t know how lesbians have sex. It’s really quite simple and depends on the couple. Everyone likes different things. The basics though, are girls fingering each other, grinding on each other, and eating each other out. Some at the same time, some at different times, some fuck each other just like a girl and man would, but with fingers instead of penises. Some lesbians incorporate strap-ons; like I said, depends on the couple.
How do I know if I’m gay?
It’s something you just know. I believe you grow into your sexuality. Most people go from being bisexual to full on gay, and the other way around. It’s really tricky. But, if you are even questioning your sexuality, chances are you are probably a little bit gay. If you look at the same sex and feel like you want to be with them, touch them, and find them sexually attractive, then you probably are. I suggest experimenting with the same sex; just make sure the person you are experimenting with is aware of your intentions.
How do you get over heartbreak?
Time. I know that is so cheesy. But, time really does heal everything. Also, acceptance and positivity. You have to accept that it’s over with, and look towards the future and not hold on to the past. Remember, the break up happened for a reason. Look for the positives in the situation, this could be the smallest thing from you not having to stress over fights anymore or having more free time or knowing that the person that’s right for you is still out there. Try to surround yourself with positive people and start to live for yourself. Pick up a new hobby to keep your mind occupied =) There’s a lot you can do.
What are some good ways to come out?
I always believe written statements are good for this. Simply because you can get out what you want to say without being interrupted. I always suggest letters or e-mails. Leave it at a time to be read where the reader has some time to think about what has been said, that way they don’t act irrationally and you can talk about it in person, (if needed), the next time you see them. Also, I think a good way is just to bring your significant other around. Nothing says it more than showing it!
Where can I contact you more personally?
You can always always e-mail me! Or contact me on youtube or myspace. I check my e-mail a lot more than those though.
E-mail: Amanda_poole@live.com
YouTube: user/babyyloveeee
MySpace: /babyyloveeee
I heard you were working on a book? What’s that about?
I am! It’s an LGBTQA collaborative book, which means it has more than 1 author. I’m trying to get a whole bunch of artwork and writing together from the LGBTQA youth and publish it. I’m trying to let people in the community know that they are not alone and to let people outside of the community know that we are the same as them. That love is love. If you want more details about deadlines and what to submit, PLEASE e-mail me @ Amanda_poole@Live.com
Would you date an FTM?
I would, proudly.
Have you had sex or been in relationships with a guy?
Yes, I first came out as bi in the 7th grade. After my first girlfriend, I was a little bit scared, so I started dating guys until the 9th grade, where I met my first serious girlfriend and came out as a lesbian. Sex with a guy, yes…only because I was raped. I’m not gay because I was raped either, it happened after I came out.
Have you had eating disorders? How did you get over them?
I’ve had 3. Anorexia, bulimia and exercise bulimia. I got over them by realizing I had a problem and wanting to fix it. You can try to fix it all you want, but until you actually WANT to get better, you can’t. When you’re ready, you should start by slowly forcing yourself to eat a little bit a day, give yourself a goal of 500 calories or something small. At first, it will feel like hell, you’ll want to purge, but you have to stay strong. Soon enough, you will adjust and it’ll feel natural.. keep giving yourself higher goals until you’ve reached at least 2000 calories a day =) Also, when you look in the mirror, tell yourself something you like about your body, even if it is just “I love my clear complexion” if you focus on the good, the bad will fade away.
How old are you?
I’m currently 18, my birthday is August 8th! =)
Any tips for a long distance relationship?
A tip to making it work is communication. That is key in any relationship, but especially in long distance ones, because that’s all you have. Know what each other is feeling and what each other wants, then you should be good. Also, trust. You can’t be there with them physically, so you have to trust them. And you should always make time for each other. Have webcam dates, write each other letters, watch movies over the phone together, talk as much as possible. Stay strong and support each other as well =)